In this sermon, Pastor Mark preaches from Song of Songs 3:6-5:1 and “Real Romance” Chapter 4 on how to make the last day of your marriage as happy, healthy, and holy as the first day of your marriage.
The Most Important Day of Your Marriage is the Last Day: Song of Songs 3:6-5:1 (RR ch4)
Please grab a few photos from when we were young, ideally various wedding pic’s
Wedding Day = college, 21, 2 sermons, hot August, 7 att’s, 100’s ppl, Oregon Coast
- 2nd most important day & decision of life
Bible – Jesus’ 1st coming & 1st miracle. Jesus’ 2nd Coming “Wedding Supper Lamb”
The First Day of Marriage
Song of Songs 3:6-11 [She] Who is this coming up from the wilderness like a column of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and incense made from all the spices of the merchant? Look! It is Solomon’s carriage, escorted by sixty warriors, the noblest of Israel, all of them wearing the sword, all experienced in battle, each with his sword at his side, prepared for the terrors of the night. King Solomon made for himself the carriage; he made it of wood from Lebanon. Its posts he made of silver, its base of gold. Its seat was upholstered with purple, its interior inlaid with love. Daughters of Jerusalem, come out, and look, you daughters of Zion. Look on King Solomon wearing a crown, the crown with which his mother crowned him on the day of his wedding, the day his heart rejoiced.
-Ancient Near East weddings – last up to 1 week, consummated 1st night
-Royal wedding national holiday
- Carriage – custom made
- Crown – mother placed upon head
- Consideration – 60 armed warriors = SAFETY/SECURITY #1 (men vs women)
Jesus Christ Lion & Lamb. Tough & Tender. = SPECIAL FORCES DAD
Compliments Build Confidence
Song of Songs 4:1-15 [He] How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes behind your veil are doves. Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from the hills of Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn, coming up from the washing. Each has its twin; not one of them is alone. Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon; your mouth is lovely. Your temples behind your veil are like the halves of a pomegranate. Your neck is like the tower of David, built with courses of stone; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors. Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies. Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense. You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you. Come with me from Lebanon, my bride, come with me from Lebanon. Descend from the crest of Amana, from the top of Senir, the summit of Hermon, from the lions’ dens and the mountain haunts of leopards. You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride; milk and honey are under your tongue. The fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon. You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain. Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard, nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the finest spices. You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.
- Abbi = insecure – blue collar, dark skin, not cultural standard beauty
- Solomon – compliments build confidence (HONEYMOON NIGHT)
General Compliments
“beautiful my darling” “altogether beautiful” “there is no flaw in you” “you have stolen my heart”
Specific Compliments
1). “Eyes” doves 2).“Hair” flock goats Mt Gilead 3). “Teeth” white & none missing
4). “Lips” scarlet ribbon “mouth” lovely “under tongue” milk & honey
5). “Temples/cheeks” rosy 6). “Neck” like tower 7). “fragrance perfume” 8). “garments”
?”2 breasts” like “twin fawns” = Moses/Aaron; OT/NT; blood/water Christ’s side; contemp/action
??????? FOR PEOPLE ZOO SECTION???????????????
“my sister, my bride” = SOUL then BODY
Private “garden locked up” not public park = Kings private Gardens – Secrecy vs Privacy
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Song of Songs 4:16-5:1 [She] Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. [He] I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk. [Friends] Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love.
What is a marriage? = 1 man & 1 woman in a covenant/consummated
Real Romance Ch. 4. Real Marriage Podcast
If You Stop Walking With God, You Start Walking With Demons (1 Kings 11)
“Happily ever after…”??????????????
What went wrong? 700 wives 300 concubines
- Solomon – birthed out of sexual sin/adultery/murder
- Wisest man after Jesus Christ
- Some marriages political
1 Kings 11 – demon gods, turned his heart from God (“pornea” NT)
Solomon = $ Gates, smarter Einstein, power US Pres.,spiritually influential Pope, harem Hefner
#1. Polygamy is misery (Lamech; Noah, Abr/Hagar/Sarah; “husband 1 wife”; Jesus Church)
#2. You can murder your marriage.
#3. Adultery of the heart (Matt. 5) counts as much as adultery of the hands
#4. The longer you wait to repent the more damage is done (SOS, Prov, Eccl “hebel/under sun”)
#5. Blessing & cursing continue for generations (North & South Kingdoms, Elijah series)
#6. If you walk away from God you are capable of the worst evils, even the murder of children.
- Milcom/Molech – Ammonite chief god; sex, sacrifice children fire (chem. Abortion)
- Chemosh/Baal – Moabite god sex w/child sacrifice
- Ashtoreth – Canaanite goddess of sex (poles)
#7. Old demons have new names – Pride, Tolerance, Swinger, Open Marriage, Porn,
Spectrum, Respect for Marriage Act, Planned Parenthood, Friends w/Benefits, Tinder
The Most Important Day of Your Marriage is the Last Day
1). Herbert & June Malicote met church, 79 yrs, died @ 100 hours apart holding hands she 1st
https://nypost.com/2022/12/07/couple-100-die-hours-apart-from-each-other-after-79-year-marriage/
2). Alexander and Jeanette Toczko married 75 yrs, died in each others arms @ 95
“Wait for me, I’ll be there soon” she said
3). Kenneth & Phyllis Zerr church, communion @ home w/pastor, married 63 years died 84 house fire on phone “I’m not leaving my wife”
https://www.baue.com/obituaries/kenneth-phyllis-zerr
– Friend – 50 yrs married – roof house, appliances, repairs, passwords, life insurance, car maintenance, prayed over, videos wife & kids & grandkids, anniv – flowers notes
– Grace & I coming up (media, book, events); this week – pastors retreat, talk & pray, tears of joy